Though is seems to be a bit of a buzzword right now, “gaslighting” itself is hardly a new phenomenon.
Gaslighting is an insidious, but unfortunately, quite common, form of emotional abuse. It can start off subtly and build over time, and because of its very nature, can be really f*cking difficult to spot.
Basically, it’s the act of manipulating a person by forcing them to question their thoughts, beliefs and memories. It’s a manipulative way to sow chaos and make you feel like you are losing your mind. It undermines your self-confidence and makes you feel off-balance, which often results in the belief that you *need* your abuser for survival.
And while it is probably most common in intimate relationships, it can also be experienced in parent-child relationships, the workplace, doctor’s offices, politics, basically anywhere that someone you trust has your ear.
It can totally rob survivors of their sense of self and keep them from trusting their intuition because they are being caused to doubt themselves over and over again.
Systematic gaslighting can take years to heal from, but here are some of our favourite healing crystals to help you along the way…
According to legend, the Hematite crystal was used as a talisman for warriors in 8th Century England because it was believed to preserve the blood or life essence of a fallen soldier wounded in battle. A Hematite crystal is a powerful ally in keeping you grounded, and by the simple act of bringing you back down to earth, Hematite gives you the clarity and focus you need to stand your ground and find trust in yourself again.
To reclaim your intuition…
A gentle, harmonious stone, often associated with monasticism, Chrysocolla can alleviate the anxiety and sense of isolation that comes with an inward focus and propel you into the status of best ever wingman… for yourself.
Inspired by the energy of willpower and confidence, Chrysocolla will ease your fear, anxiety and guilt and bring hope. With a Chrysocolla crystal by your side, you will feel motivated to transform your future ambitions into present realities.
Honey Calcite enhances psychic abilities, astral projection and higher consciousness. It also boosts intellect and memory. This amber coloured crystal gently amplifies energy and determination and promotes the faith and determination to break out of old patterns.
To promote self-love…
Lepidolite is a stone of transformation. It helps us get through transitions with trust that everything will ultimately turn out for the best and it engenders and enhances self-love, patience, and optimism.
Lepidolite’s high lithium content is no coincidence and no prescription required. Lepidolite’s gentleness and balanced energy can decrease stress, anxiety, depression, mania, despondency, PTSD and other traumas, panic attacks and addictions.
To give you the courage to communicate…
Clear Quartz can help open up the mind and elevate negative perspectives to a more enlightened point of view. It can help expand consciousness and facilitate open communication. For those needing clarity of mind, Clear Quartz healing properties will eliminate energy blockages and allow energy to flow smoothly throughout the body.
***If you or someone you know needs help, please call the domestic violence helpline 24/7 to escape. Womensline 1800 811 811, Mensline 1800 600 636 Sexual Assault Helpline 1800 010 120.